Chat about and discuss " ten major bad habit of the Chinese wife "

One day, a brothers of mine come to Zhuhai beautiful from remote Beijing, I am happy and conscientious in the peasant family to entertain the old friend not seeing in a few years. This shark of Xi'an Communications University, yellow land not changed in 30 is hale and hearty, humorous, bitterness, biased humorous man's image, good friend whom we kept thinking about forever, listen to him speaking sometimes to a lot of friends with forever disputable question too, really enjoyable!

He says: I always look down upon his peasant identity. I said I would know you for nearly 30 years, your peasant flavor has not been washed in the metropolis netly yet, it is the petty bourgeoisie not taking off flavor forever that he scolds me, it is really a kind of advanced humorous enjoyment that we make laughs and bicker.

He talks about Chinese woman's question more, the Chinese wife is more unable to say, I say: Your blow surface is too wide, he has taken off the mouth and said ten major bad habit of the Chinese wife, I that listen to can not refute, I feel that still really have a few little feelings .......

Opinion one: The Chinese woman likes forcing the Cheng Long

Have the woman of idea for strong Vanity very, what is called " a woman of low birth may marry into the purple " ; In addition they have depending on psychology is so-called " rattan twines trees only very strong often, where to have trees to twine the rattan" . In order to meet their Vanity and dependence, they do not hesitate to exert various pressure for the husband. Certainly, encourage the husband to work energetically and pursue to have no fault strongly, however, if not according to the actual conditions, make the pressure, may run counter to desire. A word: It is too stupid to force the Cheng Long's woman.

Opinion two: A lot of women are untidy

Such a woman is not small number in China, is especially finishing giving birth to the child, after entering the middle age gradually. Such a woman often has the following psychology: First, " safe " " the revolution " that psychology, thought To the end, can put the south mountain with the horse, so wear clothes at will, no longer pay attention to decorating. Second, slack off the psychology. It is no longer " Strict with oneself " ,Everything is careless, come day. The sense of loving to make up and wearing beautiful clothes is owned by everyone. Can not you let husband down while saying such a woman? Perhaps the husband does not say in the mouth, clear in satisfying. This's the real dangerous. A word: The untidy sweet woman who becomes the old woman of yellow face is too careless.

Opinion three: A lot of women are suspicious, arrogant and imperious

Suspicious woman for and self-confident to a one's own one to marriage often. It is not self-confident because to the marriage, so she is always afraid husband's emotion shifts or the behavior oversteps the limit; Because self-confident to a one's own one, fear what date abandon by the husband. The non- self-confident basic reason lies in lacking the independence and the initiative, lie in the scarce understanding of marriage essence. The arrogant and imperious wife often makes the husband depressed, can not bring oneself to mention, and influence couple to be harmonic directly. A word: The suspicious and arrogant and imperious woman is too pitiful.


Opinion four: Ignore husband's dignity

You can satirize men ill-lookingly, but you can not laugh at the man's incapability. Ability - -Ability to make money and sex ability, is two major respects of man's dignity. Can't experience the man of dignity will often give oneself up as hopeless, feel self-humiliation ending. So, the clever wife always does one's utmost to safeguard the husband's dignity, pass various " sweet words " With " technological means " Encourage the husband to set sail and cleave, restore the prestige. A word: The woman of the dignity not knowing how to safeguard the husband is too ignorant.

Opinion five: Unrealistically compare good vanity in love

Someone describes woman as a line of scenery of the city, so, without unrealisticallying compare each other between the women, vie with each other for glamour, how can the scenery be " beautiful " The woolen cloth? However, if does not unrealistically compare blindly according to one's own economic condition, it is too vanity then. Such excessive vanity does not often enable those " He who has wealth speak louder than others " Man production the nervous,even to this can't bear the heavy load. A word: Unrealistically compare the woman of good vanity very much in love " Terror " .

Opinion six: Can't look after meticulously

Not looking after meticulously, this is that those think " Virtuous wife " One piece common fault. Some wives are complaining about the husband: Care and adds him, looks after it thoughtfully, why he is unsatisfied. But perhaps she does not know that treats the husband's relatives and friends coldly or belittles consciously or unconsciously, consciously oneself, have caused the husband's disgust. Men and women combine not only the interdynamic between two people, but also involve different social relationships between two people (such as relatives and friends) Interdynamic. Neglect this kind of social relationships, will often strengthen the marriage " besieged city " Feeling,it last " besieged city " Desire. A word: The woman not looking after meticulously is too sad.

Opinion seven: Many woman ignores the sexual love

Because of several thousand year influence of feudal thought, compatriot person who discuss color mostly, especially the woman's sexual desire is hoped to be suppressed even more, their putting forward voluntarily demand is considered as " Non- decent" ,It is " wanton woman " . In conformity with this, they only regard the sex in the marriage as one in order to produce a male heir to continue the family line too, thing of bearing children and having for it. The deviation of this kind of sexual standards, make them far away from sexual joyful, sex enjoyment, the separation of sex and love caused in fact. The modern marriage should be unified by sexual love and harmony of love. The harmonious sexual life not only facilitates the intensification of couple's love but also facilitate couple's physical and mental health.

Opinion eight: A lot of women lack housewife's consciousness

Housewife consciousness and housewife ability be closely related withed, the two involve how act good family role women after all - -Refer to wife role and mother issue of role mainly.
There is one: " catch the husband's heart, should catch the husband's stomach first " . Certainly, the rather traditional color of this kind of statement, but reveal that certain reason appears among them. Women keeping house or with bad housekeeping ability, the impact on family life of marriage is self-evident. " go out of the hall and enter the kitchen " ,Should become a kind of pursuit of modern women.

Opinion nine: Reveal personal secrets at will

The family is the privatest and densest place, the marriage is the privatest and densest relation. Some women do not understand this, like talking about home " keyhole report " among the girls ,Take place personal secrets incident among couple, go on each other than comment each other, satisfy in order to obtain a certain psychology. In fact this is very inadvisable. It " betrays " Not only husband,but also "betray " Oneself,"betray " Whole family. People often say, the family is the warm harbour. If personal personal secrets can not be all guaranteed, can the family life of marriage still be so warm as to stand up?

Opinion ten: A lot of women " Accuse of desire " Too prosperous

" accuse of desire " It is in the modern marriage to pass prosperously in fact " Common disease " . Cause this kind " The disease " Reason in many aspects: The wife is suspicious and suspicious and resentful because of being scarce and self-confident, because " care about " Husband and worrying about everywhere, is afraid the husband " becomes bad " And often set up defences, and so on. " accuse of desire " The too prosperous one, that was stabed is not totally a husband, include she herself - -But can't be made under the anxious and tense state by oneself at any time. There is one: " one is 0.33 meters high, evil spirit is 3.33 meters high " . " control " With " control instead " Will not stop, why not become a sophisticated " drive the " Person,it let husband happily become by " libero " ,And within your visual field with all one's heart?



Sisters, do you have the above-mentioned problems?